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There are good reasons to value our friendships. Some years ago a public-opinion research firm, Roper Starch Worldwide, asked 2007 people to name one or two things that said the most about themselves. Friends far outranked homes jobs, clothes and cars.        “Ironically,” says Brant eson, professor of communication at Purdue University in West Lafayette, Ind., “the better friends you are, the more likely you’ll face conflicts.” And the outcome can be what you don’t want—an end to the relationship.        The good news is that most troubled friendships can be mended.        Swallow your pride. It wasn’t easy, but that’s what Denise Moreland of Hickam Air Force Base in Hawaii did when a friendship turned sour. For nearly four months,Moreland,45,had watched over Nora Huizenga’s two young daughters, who were living with their father on the base, while Huizenga,40,completed training as a dental hygienist in Nevada. “I felt honored to be asked to step in,” Moreland says.        “When Huizenga returned at Christmas,” Moreland recalls, “I had so much to tell her, but she never called.”        One daughter had a birthday party ,but Moreland wasn’t invited. “I felt like I’d been used,” she says. At first, Moreland swore to avoid Huizenga. Then she decided to swallow her pride and let her friend know how she felt. Huizenga admitted that she’d been so worried about being separated from her family that she’d been blind to what her friend had done to help her. Today she says, “I would never have figured out what happened if Denise hadn’t called me on it.”        When a friend hurts you, your instinct is to protect yourself. But that makes it harder to solve problems, explains William Wilmot, author of Relational Communication. “Most of us are relieved when differences are brought out in the open.”        Apologize when you’re wrong—even if you’ve also been wronged. But over the course of a friendship, even the best people make mistakes. “We don’t think clearly when we’re arguing,” says Michael Lang, a professional mediator (调解人) in Pittsburgh. Instead, says Lang, ask: “What’s going on? This doesn’t make sense.”        See things from your friend’s point of view. Sociologists Rebecca Adams Rosemary and Blieszner interviewed 53 adults who each had many friendships lasting decades. “We were curious how these people managed to sustain strong friendships for so long,” says Blieszner. Tolerance is key,the researchers learned.” It’s surprising how often an argument results from a simple misunderstanding,” adds psychotherapist Anne Frenkel.        Recognize that friendships change. “Friendships change as our needs and lifestyles change,” Wilmot observes.        Making friends can sometimes seem easy, says Yager. The hard part is keeping the connections strong during the natural ups and downs that affect all relationships. Her suggestion: Consider friendship an honor and a gift, and worth the effort to treasure and nurture.

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